November Newsletter: Reclaiming The Woo

How are you doing and feeling? I have been sad at the state of my beloved country and also hopeful that what I cannot see now is taking shape to shift us toward deeper connection. Change on a systemic level is messy, and painful, and takes patience to recreate something new.

I am Sitting in the space to soften what can harden, I don’t want to contribute to more of the same. What I know to be true is that pain not processed will perpetuate. The pain gets distorted and mutates into violence. The outdated systems of power need a massive update. We need more of the Woo, the WOmen, the feminine. 

Years ago I was part of a group, “The Gathering of the Goddesses.” I know it sounds hokey but it was awesome. We would have conversations about our challenges as women, dance, pull tarot cards, eat amazing food, and support each other. As I was training to be a therapist I pushed it away and traded it in for a more masculine approach to healing. This kept me in a spin of knowing without understanding HOW to heal my pain.

This led me to the work I did with Mona Miller, and that is what changed my life. I learned how to balance the healthy masculine with the embodied feminine. The FEM is often depicted as too soft and weak and yet softness allows space to change. Harshness resists and controls, and things remain the same. 

The feminine is not about gender, it is an energy that has been subjugated, sidelined, shunned, and is the kind of power that has threatened the old model. The imbalanced model of power we grew up with is baked into many of our internal systems. This is the inner work, to free up what I am carrying on an unconscious level to change the roots from which I grow. It is messy, painful, and also beautiful in the design. WE must traverse unchartered territory to pioneer the dream, the vision. 

This takes imagination, leaning into the Woo, seeing beyond the illusion and delusions of what is known and rooted in the dynamics of lack. Control cannot be the driving force or we become stuck in the spin. 

I grew up in a world that celebrated IQ and had little value for EQ. What I learned is that Emotional Intelligence is key to unlocking a fixed mindset. That is the place that keeps recreating more of the same. The deeper we can feel what lives inside and not judge it, we hold space for all parts of who we are to be heard. This is the pathway to empathy and understanding. When I can change the system within me, I can embody change within the system that I live in. 

This requires that we travel to unchartered places individually and collectively. To see beyond the conditioned mind and not let fear run us into the same position. A power stance of lack. Abundance is what we are born with, it gets tamed out of us. Our wild nature gets domesticated into conformity, upheld by comparison and judgment. Why do we want to be like other people? Because we buy into the belief we are not enough as we are. That is the BS, blind spots that need clearing. 

The places within that harden from fear are yearning for love. The tenderness that we may not have been given, we must learn to give ourselves. This turning inward is the shift that changes how we hold our hurt. The gentleness of the soft feminine that will transmute pain into wisdom. The birth, the WOmb that will give way to change.

The way forward is uncertain and what a potent time to lean into what we can change to recalibrate to a new paradigm of power. What you change within will shift what you attract in your life. 

I am leaning into more Woo, not bypassing the pain, transmuting it into wisdom. Who knows maybe I will start another Gathering. We need your creative voices and visions. It all matters, we are all connected. 

If you need support or guidance, reach out. This is my field of expertise. There is a field of possibility when we go beyond the mind's fixed perception and see with the vision of heart and soul. 

Thank you for being here and grateful for this community.