PASSION + PURPOSE

Writing prompt to activate your personal power. Pen to paper, please!

Staying connected to what we are passionate about brings a deeper meaning to the overall quality of our lives. What do you love to do? What makes you feel alive and inspired? This doesn’t need to be anything that you’re “good” at! Often times we block our creative flow because we judge it as good or bad. Recognize when and where these judgement words pop in and shift them to something more constructive. I like the word “explore” because it brings out curiosity rather than achievement. TRY THIS EXERCISE:

Close your eye and place your hands on your belly center, breathe deeply into your core and ignite your breathing with the visualization of a bright yellow sun. In your minds eye, see that sun expand beyond the borders of your body and into the world around you. Ask yourself what lights you up from the inside out. Don’t answer quickly let the space of your mind, emotion, and spirit fill you up with the response. The gift is you get to feel and intuit the answer rather than intellectually react. As you breathe into the sensation. Gently open your eyes and write in your journal:

The answer that came to you. For example mine is “living in connection”

So I would write “living in connection”

Means……… Write out everything it means to you

What it feels like………write out all the feelings

What this creates…………..

Don’t edit, let it flow and reveal some of the deeper dimensions of what lights you up. This is how we connect to our purpose, we embody it from inside out. Enjoy the light and shine on!

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PERFECTIONISM

perfectionismHere in LA we have June gloom. It’s a reminder that life isn’t always sunny nor should it be. Sometimes our desire to be up keeps us attached to happiness. Sadness is also a state that we all must visit to sit in a deeper understanding of what it means to be human. It can be messy business here in earth school and if we have a desire to keep up appearances of happy all the time, we just might develop the  “Perfectionism Syndrome”. Perfectionism means I will only show you what I think you want to see so you will validate me. Then I don’t have to deal with my fears and insecurities. Perfectionism will want me to be a control freak, because God forbid I make a mistake! How do we not make mistakes in this world? Isn’t that how we learn? It’s the judgment of the mistakes that kills the spirit and the growth. We place “bad” on messing up. Then we live in shame, and “I will never let you see that part of me because you will not love or like me”. Shame, like a fungus, grows in the dark. So what is the antidote? Shine the light of our awareness on the upsetting experience, understand why and what happened, own our part, forgive, and heal the pain so it doesn’t it fester into more pain and create mean voices that will eventually lash out.

The truth is many of us have self-beat voices. I call them gremlins. They seem more approachable that way. They usually started talking early in life when we were developing a sense of self. If we took on the criticisms of our culture, religion, perhaps family of origin, we may not have learned how to process our insecurities, fears, and upsets. This can sit in our subconscious for many years and stimulate our thoughts and behaviors, talking in our ear whenever we feel scared and off center. The thing is they are often not true but feel very real. If we continue to avoid them and not deal because fear is up, how do we learn how to navigate our negative feelings?

There is a lot of talk about the power of positive thinking. But what happens to all the negative thoughts we have? Ask yourself what some of your negative thoughts are, and what you do when you have them? Negative implies bad which is a judgment, and judgment often shuts down new information and learning. Often times we think that pain or sadness is to be avoided because it hurts. Then we can judge it as bad and shut off the channel to understanding our hurts and wounds. We live in a world that judges quickly and understands and owns slowly. That’s why it is important to slow down to understand our thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Fear is a teacher if we learn to listen without judgment and go towards understanding what is off center and needs attention. You see, the thing about fear is that if we avoid it or shut it down, it will come back with friends even louder and we will have to find ways to silence it again. This is where the addict jumps in and tries to save us from our mean thoughts. If we start judging the addict then how are we ever going to change? Yikes!

So how do we get off this crazy train of trying to be perfect? Rinse and understand our feelings and stop judging them as bad or wrong! Through this process we own what is ours, build the muscle of self-trust, and catch our judgments of others. When you feel triggered and upset, recognize your patterns. Do you blame, project and personalize? Is your thinking, seeing, and listening open and clear? Probably not! Write down in a journal what is stirred up for you to stimulate all the voices that are spinning in your head. Every thought we have has a feeling attached and a vibe. If we thought it, we felt it. And no amount of physical or mental gymnastics will make it go away. Understand what the feelings are saying to create greater awareness of a truth that is out of balance. Feelings are not facts, they are like a school of fish when allowed to move together, they help us swim forward and not stay stuck in a trance. This will help us process deeper feelings in the subconscious mind that have been avoided so that we don’t keep playing out the past pain and imposing it onto our current life. That’s why it is so important to take negative off of sadness and upset. This is how we learn about ourselves and process old residue that we may be carrying from many years ago. See my Processing Playground video HERE on Rinse, Process, and Own.

Clearing the emotional center can make you feel more alive and even childlike. It takes a lot of our energy to hold down the fort of fear and keep judgments alive. Frankly it exhausts our ability to be present and awake. So recognize if you have an attachment to staying in turmoil to not deal with upsetting truths. When they are acknowledged and liberated, you may see the world from a much more open view. You may feel more open and courageous to share all of you because you won’t fear other people’s judgments. We take on other peoples’ pain and projections because we are already doing it to ourselves somewhere!  As we rinse and process our feelings of fear and own what is ours, the truth doesn’t hurt. It sets us free!  So love your flaws, understand and own your mistakes, and recognize that beauty is in the truth of who we are. To know true love, is to love all of our truths, the good, bad, and ugly. If we can do that for ourselves, how much easier will it be to love others with more understanding and less judgment? Whenever the gloom sets in, it’s not bad it’s a moment to pause and feel what is coming up, let it move you through the shadows to bring you back into your light. We are human and spirit, darkness and light, we are perfect in the wholeness of who we are.

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